No, I Don't Want to Describe IT

I started out my book (still untitled) with visions of an Urban Fantasy with a gutsy heroine and a tough hero.  It slowly morphed into more of an Adventure/Fantasy with a smart heroine and a charming hero.  Now it has further evolved.  As of today, it is perilously close to--wait for it--a (oh, I can't bear to think of it) Paranormal Romance *gasp*.

I shied away from the "Romance" genre mainly because I do not want to write sex scenes.  It's not that I can't write sex scenes--heh--but that I don't want them to come off (no pun intended) as smarmy, lascivious or, worse, robotic.

Now I do know many Romance writers who do not lace their books with ten pages of foreplay and another six of the actual deed.  They like to let their readers imaginations fill that in.  I'm all for that!  I think readers have better imaginations than some writers give them credit for.   (I know--bad form with a dangling participle.)  Better than describing other dangly things!  I have read books where every other chapter describes a couple's copulation and every time is exactly like the first one.  Like that's realistic.  I'm no expert (call Dr. Ruth if you want one), but I'm sure that each, er, encounter is somewhat different.

Okay, that being said, how much 411 should I include?  Well, I figure everybody knows the basics, so I'll just leave them at a kiss.